Don't you realize you could be both right?Mike Cash wrote:Typical modern female-centric self-serving men-are-bastards claptrap.Mercenary wrote:
It also talked about that typically after the married people were done having kids that the man would lose interest in the wife and may very well pursue his desires elsewhere. It also was talking about how the man typically was obsessive with work and spent little time at home with the wife and the kids and that it was the wife that gave the children any kind of real attention.
Does it talk about how from the moment of conception, practically, husbands are marginalized and neglected? Does it mention and explain the common Japanese expressions 亭主は留守で元気がいい and 釣った魚に餌をやらない？ ("Husbands should be healthy and absent" and "You don't keep giving bait to fish you already caught")
Does it mention how so many women, once they become mothers, quit being wives?
I'm going to cut this off, because I feel like going on a full-blown rant and I can only do justice to it out loud.
As far as I got it, some times ago, the best way not to see a japanese man was to be married to him. Him working and drinking and 出張 and golf. Which might be changing, but quite slowly. In this context, the best thing to do is to treat the man as a father/moneyman... and not invest in him. So, you stop being a loving wife. And wrongfully think of hubby as a baited fish.
Then, obviously enough, hubby might have to look for something more somewhere else, and the lifestyle perversely allows just for that. How to spot the difference between the "drinking binge time" and "mistress time", except by the sent of the soap if you get that close?
But obviously, my man would do that, I'd drop him immediatly
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