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Postby jinksys » Sun 06.19.2005 5:33 am

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Postby Harisenbon » Sun 06.19.2005 8:43 am

This is the most offensive thing I have ever heard, and completely untrue.
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Postby kempokatt » Sun 06.19.2005 11:33 am

I agree!

Jinksys - Your entire post is offensive and arrogant...

I would like for you to actually READ what you have typed and think about it...for as long as you need to...until you realize how simple minded it makes you sound.

I would also like to say that not all people from the USA think like this.
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Postby hammer » Sun 06.19.2005 12:57 pm

Just a thought or two:
1) The original poster is citing something he heard on a TV program. He obviously has no point of reference hence his asking for advice of those who have lived in Japan/familiar with the culture to ascertain [a] if the statements depicted/made on the program are indeed true and [b] if this IS a wide-spread truth (which it is of course is not), how should he react in a given situation.
2) Rather than coming out with guns ablaze trying to wreak havoc in this individual, why not in a constructive manner point out the errors in his perception, point him to the truth, and let your information, with possible references to counter the information presented in the program, suffice.
When new to Japanese culture I suspect that you who have posted these replies made YOUR share of uninformed faux pas with regards to the Japanese way of life. To quote one undeniable source.."Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.....".
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Postby kempokatt » Sun 06.19.2005 1:16 pm

Ok, I'll start off with this then...

Just because it happens (and it happens EVERYWHERE in the world) does not mean that they ENCOURAGE this behaviour.

The same thing can be said of people in Nevada where Prostitution is legal...would you feel comfortable marrying someone from RENO?

Now, think about this...would you marry someone without getting to know them? without loving them? I understand that there are many unknowns when getting married but....NOBODY (who is in love) gets married to someone thinking "she is going to cheat on me"...If you do you are getting married for all the wrong reasons.

I hope this clears things up a little
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Postby Justin » Sun 06.19.2005 1:59 pm

Ouch, that has got to be one of the worst ways I have ever seen someone ask a question, not very tactful at all. You do realize there are probably some of us on the board here who’s GF/wife are Japanese, and for you to say what you just did there, is extremely rude.

Having your title as “Jap girls will cheat on you for $” for one is just not a good way to start out things. Then to go on and pretty much call all Japanese women whores, you’re making yourself look rather ignorant by saying such things because of some TV show you saw about it.

To answer you’re question, no, not all Japanese women are whores. Yes, people do in fact pay for sex, it’s called prostitution, happens all around the world. Would the wives of those men who are having sex with these prostitutes be ok with it, no, no they wouldn’t.

I know you probably didn’t really mean any harm by what you said there, as you probably just wanted to know if what you heard was true or not. Still though, there’s a certain way you go about things, and the way you took there, is defiantly not the right one. Please try to use a bit more common sense in the future when you go to ask questions like this though, as I’m sure the last thing you want to do is piss off a bunch of people.
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Postby kanadajin » Sun 06.19.2005 2:30 pm

Yea i also agree just because you saw it on tv does not give you the right to say such things this is obviously not true and you should have realized that. I have learned almost everything about the Japanese culture including their sex life and nothing has ever come up about this.. Also i agree with Justin That Title name was a bad choice of titleyou could have chosen another title.. Again i agree with Justin.. You proabably did not mean what you said in some ways but... still you could have chosen better vocabulary for the use of this topic..
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Postby jinksys » Sun 06.19.2005 3:36 pm

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Postby jinksys » Sun 06.19.2005 3:45 pm

btw, thank you for reading the whole post hammer and not only the title like the others.
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Postby Spaztick » Sun 06.19.2005 4:53 pm

Well, if you were watching an American television, remember that much of what you see on TV is not for information but rather entertainment, even the Discovery Channel tries to entertain (but of course they educate you as well). I'm not saying entertainment is bad, but when it distorts the truth it's horrible (see gossip, slander, reality TV, etc).
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Postby Sakura_war » Sun 06.19.2005 5:03 pm

Hi jinksys,

I've found the descriptions of the show "wired for sex" on the web. (http://worldofwonder.net/productions/ne ... or_sex.wow)

Here's the decription for episode 13 of the serie: "Technology is the new third partner in the bedroom. To glimpse the future we go to the most technologically advanced and wired country in the world, Japan, where they are not only wired for sex, they're also wireless. But are they also clueless or more enlightened? Is the land of the rising sun really the shape of things to come or have we lost our way?"

I think it's not hard to tell from the description listed above that the producers have an attitude against Japan (they are calling it the most wired country in the world). How reliable their stuff could be? Not much I would say. I agree with you that it's unlikely that they made up the whole thing, but what they described in the show may represent only 10% of all Japanese girls.

So I would suggest not to worry too much when you are about to marry a Japanese girl.:p
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Postby caseclosed » Sun 06.19.2005 6:02 pm

i think yal r being way to harsh, he didnt say that stuff, the show did, my god:|
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Postby Harisenbon » Sun 06.19.2005 6:15 pm

CaseClosed, It doesn't matter, he has inadvertantly called my wife, my family and all my friends whores. If I said the same thing about your friends and family, and said "I heard it on TV." Would you be any less upset?

And Jinksys, I did read your entire post. Many times, and could not find one redeeming point in it. It is horrid and offensive.
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RE: Jap girls, sex, and morals.

Postby hammer » Sun 06.19.2005 7:02 pm

Jinksys,
You are welcome. And while I agree that the wording could have been a little better constructed (the title and parts not from the show), the issue and the anger directed at you (obviously Harisenbon neglected to read my initial post), should be directed towards the network that would aire such outlandish, inflammatory and undeniably offensive programming. While the sex industry is huge in Japan (including pornography) as it is in MANY countries, it is abhorrant for ANY responsible media outlet to characterize women in that light. I have known many Japanese women and I know NONE of them would agree with the gist of that programming!
For some of the posters, might I suggest a bottle of umeshuu over ice. It is certainly within your providence to be offended, however, the degree of your venom is WAY out of proportion. Since YOU know that your respective family members are NOT the type of people suggested in the program, then be proud of that, help dispell that myth, impart the truth and get over it!
Who you or your families are is not in anyway contingent on what someone or some program dictates. Lashing out at anyone is not going to solve the problem.
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Postby Justin » Sun 06.19.2005 8:52 pm

I have never seen the said program which Jinksys has based his post on, but I have a feeling the program itself was by no means as rude and offensive as what Jinksys wrote. Rather than just coming back and saying "Look people! Those arent MY opinions up there!" don't you think it would have been more appropriate to maybe say sorry, instead of just blaming the TV show?

I'm in the same boat as Harisenbon here, so forgive me if my "venom" is WAY out of proportion, but I don't care what your source is, or weather or not it was aimed directly at me, but you posted it here for us to view, so you might want to take a little responsibility for it.

When I was reading this post the first time here today, my wife just happened to come over and see what I was up. Yeah, no big deal you might think, maybe so if your wife isn’t Japanese. When she read your post there, do you have any idea how that made her feel? Just because she’s not the type of person Jinksys was talking about doesn’t make it come across as being any better either.

After seeing me posting a few times on this board, and since she used to be a Japanese teacher, she figured it might be fun to join in and help out. Yeah, I think after reading your post there that probably went out the window, as if people can’t take the time to make an intelligent post that won’t piss off the person trying to help them, I’d see no reason why she’d ever want to help out here.

If you have any questions in the future about such things, it would be great if you would take the time to think it out a bit more and try not to offend people. It’s all about being tactful my friend.
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