When I read the above comments, I actually wanted to respond to that thread at once, but I hesitated, partly I was terribly busy for the past couple of days, partly also I hated to fight with people. I hate to argue, it’s not at all a pleasant feeling. After some struggling, I decided to create this thread, but I have to make myself clear I am not inviting anyone for opinions. Pardon me for not able to bottle up my feeling for people who I like and respect, I just want to say a few words here.xxx wrote:
All I see is a decent chap trying to start a conversation with other human beings, and all the regular dicks come out flashing their claws and stomping all over this poor bloke.
I've stopped going here for a while simply because of some of the responses, and the lack of respect to those who are brand new to learning about a new country/culture(no matter what your age is).
To be frank, the only reason that keeps me wanting to visit this forum simply because of these heartfelt caring people like Coco, Tony, Richvh, Harisenbon, Oyaji, Keatonatron, Wakannai, Tanuki, Oracle, Mike Cash, Gundiaepo, Caroline, Hungryhotei, Shirasagi, Yudan...... They never hesitate to lend their helping hands, and they are someone I can learn something from, not only the language, but invaluable lessons you can’t get even with paying. There are also some young teens like Hatori, Kisshu, Nessa, Sei, Enji, probably some others (sorry I can’t remember), I can see that they are making every effort to express themselves clear with questions or comments, they are somehow giving me a very friendly impression, and they act maturely to different circumstances, and can take remarks graciously, their posts are sometimes interesting and do not stop you from wanting to interact with them.
I want to highlight those regulars here, I’ve never found them flashing their claws and attacking viciously. All I can see are --- reasoning, leading, correcting, coaching and giving constructive advice. Honestly, if you care to read all their past posts and make an effort to know them a little, you’ll find them helpful, accurate and approachable.
You have the freedom to choose, if you ever find this forum not suitable, there are tons of sites out there waiting for you. You are not committed to this forum, just the same as the regular volunteers here, (there are people who just come and go, including some moderators) they are not paid a single cent, they are not praised when they have done something nice, they do not get any reward or credit for balancing a good job here. It’s not easy.
I can understand a lead to a bad feeling if they are people who keep finding faults even when you’ve done your best or constantly bringing you down deliberately, but they never. If you think rationally, they are rather, one party always being the giver, and the other only the taker. I do not see any unreasonable setting of standards they pose and expect you to live up with. They even care to cheer you up when they see your post of some personal problems. They keep this forum clean and pleasant, they even care to keep a good watch over trolling matters. What’s more are we expecting?
I believe they know what they need to do. If something happens to go against what we expect them to do, that we feel hurt, disappointed and even angry, it’s probably also a good time we need to reflect ourselves. Do be understanding, give each other another chance, show your appreciation when they do something nice for you. Same thing, it’s nice for us to feel appreciated too.
To Clay-san and his admin team,
If there were anyone that comes flashing their claws, I must be the one indeed, ban me if there's a need to do so. Kindly lock this thread, as I mentioned above, I just wanted to share my feeling here, no intention for further discussion. Thanks for reading.