furrykef wrote:I have to agree with Mike Cash on that one: even if you don't think it's immoral per se (I don't), a sexual relationship does throw objectivity out the window. I probably should listen to that advice more myself.
I think the average person should be more worried about what traits and skills the other person has. Some people are okay with certain traits, for example, smoking or drinking, those can be things that someone might or might not want in a "life mate." You might find talking about the zodiac cool for a few weeks and then it fizzles. Perhaps a person is too controlling, etc. All of these things are hard to find out about a person if all you are worried about is the "sex." In fact by only focusing on sex, you are more willing to overlook things that a few years down the line cause the relationship to fold. If more people dated to find people they were emotionally compatible with, rather than sexually satisfied with, abot 25% of divorces would never happen.
You can also pay attention to things like how well someone handles stress, finances, difficult situations, and praise. Your prospective partner might have emotional issues that you aren't capable or willing to put up with, but because it's all sex, you never find out about it.
Anyways, I have (as is easy to see) a very conservative view of marriage, dating and sex. Perhaps, those views are one of the reasons my wife and I are still married after 18 years of marriage. And if it makes any difference, sex was the last thing we were worried about, it was however, what we looked forward to on our Honeymoon..