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Marriage in Japan-seemingly biased article

Postby CardinalGuy724 » Fri 09.09.2011 6:51 am

So in my online reading I came across this article: http://www.wa-pedia.com/culture/sex_in_japan.shtml which deals with marriage and sexuality in Japan. The article contains some shocking proclamations that I'm in no position here to verify (considering I've only been to Japan once...4 years ago...for a month :lol: ). I'll let you guys read the original, no need to summarize (partially because I'm lazy and partially so that people can read this OP without too many references to sex :whistle: and then decide from there if they want to keep reading the thread)

Nevertheless, I have the sneaking suspicion that a lot of what's written here is hyperbole considering the author implies that this is a problem with ALL Japanese married couples and sweeping generalizations generally don't hold very much water. (this feeling is confounded by the fact that many of the articles on this site ironically have a very anti-Japanese tone to them). However I wanted to hear the opinions of people who are a lot more familiar with the inner workings of Japanese society as there may be some grains of truth here.

If this isn't a particularly appropriate topic to discuss here, I'm sorry! But I figured I'd try it anyway.
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Re: Marriage in Japan-seemingly biased article

Postby becki_kanou » Fri 09.09.2011 7:34 am

Wow! There is a grain of truth in everything said there, but it is heavily biased and exoticizing, not to mention about 10 years out of date. They really make no attempt to see the culture from the inside and blindly accept the idea that the way it is in the West is the way it SHOULD be everywhere. It seems like a slightly more mature version of "LOL Japan! Loli-con, tentacle porn, panties in vending machines, oh those crazy Japanese."
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Re: Marriage in Japan-seemingly biased article

Postby NileCat » Fri 09.09.2011 9:02 am

Well said, becki-san! I totally agree with you.
Although we Japanese are used to being seen with biased eyes from “Westerners”, I personally found the linked article just laughable. “The Japanese law still does not recognize fathers of children born outside wedlock”??? “Divorce is still very widely frown upon”??? “Many Japanese men are obviously sexually frustrated”??? And, lol, “External affairs are an almost culturally accepted part of life in Japan”??????
Anyways, I don’t mean to attack this author but I don’t like this kind of “seemingly plausible analysis”. I might as well read personal attacks such as “I hate Japs”.
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Re: Marriage in Japan-seemingly biased article

Postby CardinalGuy724 » Fri 09.09.2011 11:42 am

Becki-San and NileCat-San, thank you for confirming my suspicions that this author really has some sort of personal issue with Japan and blew these problems out of proportion in the article.

It's actually a bit disconcerting because I'm sure many non-Japanese have happened upon this website and may or may not have taken what this guy has to say as completely factual. After all, the way the website as a whole presents itself as a sort of Japanese Wikipedia, or "Wa-pedia" would make one think that they've come across a site that has "the facts" and is seemingly a lot more trustworthy than your typical blog.

I'm like 95% percent sure this guy had a horrible visit to Japan. Check out all the articles concerning gaijin in Japan (which you can access by clicking on the "Society" tab and then going to the section that says "Westerners in Japan". It's very vitriolic.
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Re: Marriage in Japan-seemingly biased article

Postby NileCat » Fri 09.09.2011 2:36 pm

Reading some of the articles there, I was kind of shocked to be honest. I wonder what kind of person from which country has this monomaniacal passion to write this amount of articles about a country that they only visited for a short time based on their shallow and contracted experience and tacky secondhand information which is also biased. And they name it –pedia… I’m openmouthed. Especially when I read an article about “discrimination”. The author seems to believe that Japanese people are so ignorant that we are actually racists but not realizing it because we don’t understand the concept of the word racism properly. Sigh… :roll:
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Re: Marriage in Japan-seemingly biased article

Postby Mikkabozu » Sat 10.08.2011 8:38 am

Some of the content in this article might be applicable to the couples in their 60's or older - but even then, only some.

My wife (japanese) and I have many friends who are very happily married. And none of them had a pre-arranged marriage.

In fact, to illustrate, my wife's grandparents were an arranged marriage. Her parents were an o-miai marriage (which is not a pre-arranged marriage - it as a pre-arranged meeting between prospective individuals). We married because we met, fell in love, and decided to marry each other.

So, in just three generations, we went from one institution to its polar opposite. And I would venture to offer that many families in Japan these days have had the same experience.

But, going back to the reliability of the OP's article, "Many Japanese men are obviously sexually frustrated." Really? Where's your citation? And can you honestly claim that Japanese men are sexually frustrated, but men in other parts of the world are not?

Really? We don't have sick, twisted porn in America? That stuff only exists in Japan?

Really?

Really?
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Re: Marriage in Japan-seemingly biased article

Postby jorgea » Wed 06.06.2012 2:53 pm

Most articles that are written contain some degree of biases
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Re: Marriage in Japan-seemingly biased article

Postby john2 » Fri 08.31.2012 4:05 am

NileCat wrote:Japanese people are so ignorant that we are actually racists but not realizing it because we don’t understand the concept of the word racism properly. Sigh… :roll:

if you replace Japanese with West, And racism, for discrimination in general.
Then The proposition holds true but I'm inclined to agree on Japan from the outset cant be like that.

As for Discussion sexual frustration, seriously...has anyone noticed how sexualized males are in the west not to mention that some are seriously over sexualized.
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Re: Marriage in Japan-seemingly biased article

Postby NileCat » Fri 08.31.2012 4:15 am

Yeah, I know what you mean, john2.
However, my point here was that this author guy doesn’t seem to realize that he himself looks like the very one whom he intended to criticize as an unknowing racist!
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Re: Marriage in Japan-seemingly biased article

Postby john2 » Fri 08.31.2012 7:52 am

@Nilecat
Meh I think the entire site is like that.
(please ignore the latter half (of this post before I deleted it) refering to a discussion on their forum I saw :evil: )
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