Yudan Taiteki wrote:
I dunno...all I saw in his posts was more of the same "it's all your fault, the Japanese are perfect, you just don't understand them or their culture, leave if you don't like it" talk that I heard in Japan from the Idealistic Assholes.
I just liked the "You accept everyone, except those who don't" bit. It seemed to be a very plausible explanation, and a common stumbling block for many people. No matter how accepting you may be, you simply can't change the fact that others might not be as accepting. Some people start to think "I
accept them, why can't they accept me?" and get frustrated.
Leaving a miserable gap of 2+ years?
Take a closer look:
"I had a lot of fun when I first arrived and started making friends"
"Then as I started learning more... That was a very lonely 6 months."
"I didn't start to really enjoy myself until maybe 6-10 months ago"
I arrived in Japan and started having fun. Of course it was only fun because it was new and exciting. Compared to what I know now, I wouldn't call it real "fun".
1.5 years later I went back to America for school, and returned 6 months after that to find all my "fake" friends from before were no longer interested in me, as I had become "too Japanese" for them.
6 months of misery.
6-10 months ago, things got really really good.
Add it up, and you get the total 3 years since I first came to Japan.