I just thought I would throw up this topic for anyone who's interested or curious about international relationships/marriages. Are you currently in an international relationship? Are you thinking about one? Are you wondering what sort of issues you might encounter? Feel free to comment away.
I can start the ball rolling: I am in a international marriage (WF - AM (Korean)). We've been married for eight years and have two kids. We are currently living in the US.
One observation I've made: AF - WM seems to be a LOT more common than the other way around. (In eight years, I think I can count on one hand the number of WF - AM couples I have seen or met in everyday life.) I have a theory as to why this might be.
AF - WM couples seem to be more common because I think they have a better chance of working out, even if the Asian is not Americanized. Although American guys tend to be more egalitarian than Asian males, the Asian wife who has not been Americanized has, for better or for worse, been raised to treat her husband as the ultimate head of the family. So, she'll treat him very well.
On the other hand, I believe that WF - AM couples are at a disadvantage if the Asian male has not been Americanized. If he has an Asian mindset, he will (at least subconsciously) expect to be treated as the ultimate head of the family - something which most American females in the wake of women's lib are loath to do. With such conflicting expectations, it's likely that the couple will experience difficulties unless they learn to set aside their differences and work things out.
However, if the Asian male has been sufficiently Americanized, then the relationship stands a much better chance. He'll be keenly aware of the cultural differences in gender roles within the marriage, and will tend to egalitarianism, which would be more in line with his American wife's expectations.
Anyways, that's my theory on why there are more AF - WM than the other way around. Anyone else care to set forth their hypotheses as to why this is the case?